“When anything is initiated in the joy of the present and
in the rhythm of the breath, the future of that reality can
be more purposeful, meaningful, loving, and powerful."
I was in a car with my friend on our way to have lunch for
his birthday. I noticed an angry tone in his voice; when I asked him about it,
he confirmed he was angry. He started to tell me how disappointed and hurt
he was that I was not available to celebrate his birthday – in the way he expected.
I was astonished by that reaction. Here I was driving with him to celebrate his
birthday, and he was unable to be here in the present moment; instead he
was choosing to be upset about an unfulfilled picture he had in his head of
something that never happened, and something I knew nothing about.
I could feel myself getting triggered into “No matter what I’ll do for him – I’ll
always end up being wrong.” The conversation soon turned to an exchange
of ‘emotional pain bodies’. I could see that this was going nowhere fast.
I was very relieved when my friend suggested that we take a break
from each other for a couple of hours.
I had a choice – to feel bad about it and ruminate, think and analyze it to
death, or to take a walk, and turn over my feelings and reactions to
my breath, and just keep moving.
Not ten minutes later, after turning all this drama over to the rhythm of my
breathing, I started to feel joyful, and saw the pair of shoes above being sold
on the street on the Lower East Side.
When I asked the vendor how much they were – and he said “$10.”I thought
- “OK Ms. Breath –I get it. Thank you!” After walking one more block, I found
a wonderful gift for my friend. I thanked the breath again – this time for not
harboring any resentment at my friend and feeling light hearted enough to
celebrate his birthday – even without him.
I would like to invite you to not only practice taking the high road and join me
and others in the work of Living in the Present – but also to tell your own story
of being triggered out of the peace, joy and calmness of the present moment,
and post it on my blog: www.calmingyourworld.com.
This is part of a new direction we are taking here at Calming Your World –
Calming Our Environment. We are co-creating a community, which is practicing
making the choice to take the higher road of life when challenged by the
reactivity of ego-drama. We are willing to share our tools and experiences
of making those choices on the blog to empower ourselves and others.
(Respect yourself - song)
Enjoy the frequency of Presence this summer,
Samuel
P.S. Here are the tools that I am offering this summer to help you learn
to acheive calmness and live in the present:
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